missing work so that you can look after your partner’s needs.not speaking up about your restaurant preferences when choosing where to go for dinner.pursuing a certain career primarily to please your parents.Research from 1999 found that codependency may develop when a child grows up in a shame-based environment and when they had to take on some parental roles, known as parentification. Trauma is often at the root of the fawn response. In the context of a possibly dysfunctional bond with a spouse or parent, an attempt to manage stress might, on a baseline level, result in adapting your personality to cater to your loved one, often at the expense of yourself.

The aforementioned study, published in the Journal of Personality and Individual Differences, also found a relationship between post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and how someone handles stress. Research from 2020 found that trauma can impact personality traits such as agreeableness, emotionality, and neuroticism - all qualities that influence how we relate to others and our relationships. They act as if they unconsciously believe that the price of admission to any relationship is the forfeiture of all their needs, rights, preferences, and boundaries,” writes Walker. “Fawn types seek safety by merging with the wishes, needs, and demands of others. Fawning is also called the “please and appease” response and is associated with people-pleasing and codependency. Fawning refers to consistently abandoning your own needs to serve others to avoid conflict, criticism, or disapproval.

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